We’ve been busy! Between packing, moving stuff and getting ready for a business trip, I’ve been a bit too busy to blog lately. Things are still moving slowly forward. All the utilities except for the phone line and internet are hooked up and the change of address forms have been sent in. We spent the night in our new home on Wednesday night so we could be there all day Thursday for various service companies to come out a do their things. It was neat waking up and seeing our horses outside. Adriel likes his new room and is trying to decide how he wants to paint it.
I can’t really post much about the legal steps that are going on right now but don’t worry, things are being taken care of. I’m still hopeful that Adriel will be allowed to go to school without having to deal with a lawsuit but who knows how that will go. I guess we’ll find out on August 25th when school starts.
Anyway, I thought I would share a few of the letters I have received concerning this problem. Most were forwarded to me as well as the school board but the first one was sent only to me. That one probably means the most to me. Its a story I have heard repeated many times now with little variation. I’m leaving out the names for the writers’ privacy.
My name is ******. I am a Choctaw and I grew up in Small town Tennessee. I read your post in the group and I can relate. I just thought I would write you in private. I’m not too big on posting stuff in the group lol.
anyways when I was younger I wasn’t allowed to keep my hair long. my mother and father kind of raised me to know of my culture but they weren’t raising me to Be NDN (it’s hard to explain maybe you get it). anyways it was a time in my life (I was 14 I think) and I was experiencing the feeling of being lost or needing to know who I was, who I was becoming. So I began embracing my identity and learning all I can about it. Here comes the school with their westernized thoughts. as I was coming into High School, they told me I couldn’t keep my hair long, were my beaded necklace, or my shell earrings. they told me it was a violation of the dress code. I read the school manual, found nothing I was doing wrong. I told my mom we should fight it. She didn’t wanna fight it. Next thing you know I was at the barbers. It didn’t stop there. The school wouldn’t let me express myself concerning: history, the world around us, the status of the country, the mindset of the local community, etc. So suppressing my identity and expression of my mind led to me dropping out. I had to get my GED, I moved out of the town, then to Lawrence Kansas to go to College (at Haskell) to be around more of my NDN people. I mean yeah I’m fine now but I can’t help but feel they (small town TN school board) won. It was a rough. Like I said i’m fine now, but the days of my youth weren’t pleasent, I just felt like I was held down from rising to be me. So I just want you to know that, even though I don’t know you, I support your cause, and I pray for you and your family. and that I will notify a few friends and relatives of mine in Texas of your dillema. So don’t give up. You don’t have to write back or anything, I’m just writing to show support.
Peace
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To Whom It May Concern:
I have recently been made aware of an incident concerning a young American Indian boy, Adriel.
In keeping with his father’s American Indian heritage, Adriel has long, braided hair. His parents keep it clean and neatly braided. However, it has been made clear to his parents that Adriel must cut his traditional braids in order to attend kindergarten at Needsville Elementary School.
Despite the fact that I reside in San Francisco, California, I would like to voice my complaints about this. I consider this case to be a gross abuse of civil rights and an abuse of American citizens’ religious freedom. Would you force an Orthodox Jewish boy to remove his yarmulke and remove the tradition sideburns? Would you demand that a Sikh boy remove his turban, or a Muslim girl her headscarf? In your act of insisting that Adriel must cut his braids, you are violating a very basic Constitutional right: the right to religious freedom.
While you claim that “the policy has always been this way and will not change for one student”, consider this: Adriel is certainly not the first American Indian child to enroll in your school, and will not be the last. As suburbia crawls nearer to your community, you will notice an influx of students whose religious beliefs do not correspond with the current dress code. Demanding that Adriel’s family provide “”proof of sincere religious belief” is an ignorant request, as it is a widely known fact that American Indians did not leave behind much in the way of written history.
Consider the lawsuit that will definitely ensue if you continue to attempt to force an outdated dress code on a child who is clearly following the traditions of his heritage. Consider also the amount of people who are involved in organizations that are dedicated solely to the upholding of American Indian rights.
The world around your school system is changing, and it is necessary to make adjustments to accommodate that change.
Sincerely,
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Hello. I’m a resident of the area, I pay NISD taxes, & I’ve been following the issue concerning one young gentleman’s hair length. I’ve shared the story with several friends, family & acquaintences. I feel it would be beneficial to the community that I share with you the responses I’ve gotten.
Being elected officials, the way you (and Mr Rhodes) approach such topics & the decisions you make reflect on the entire area as a whole. This issue has gained widespread attention and many people are watching.
In my sharing the links to the television reports & printed media (houstonpress & fortbendnow), these have been the replies. I posted the links & asked peoples’ opinions on them. I posted these to friends, family, and several online forums for teachers & parents.
I have highlighted in red the comments that really stand out as showing the negative impression this decision & the comments made by Mr. Rhoads have made not only on the school, but on this entire community:
“I saw right off the bat he looks Indian. my boy is Cherokee and I do cut his hair but he has sensory issues and I cant brush or comb it. there is no Indian “bible” just traditions passed down. Indians were beaten and killed for using their native tongue think they would suffer a punishment of writing their way of life down? think any of the writings remain? maybe I’m used to it being the year 2008 and people being a bit more open minded. I hope they win.”
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“This is terrible! I will pass this on. Stuff like this really ticks me off. What does that child’s hair hurt? Especially when that hair style is part of his heritage as a Native American. If they force that boy to cut his hair then every little girl in that school should have to cut theirs too….really no one should have to, but you know what I mean. So unfair and just un-necessary.”
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“It is unfortunate that things like this happen but this is the only way that change will ever come about. The one suffering from this is the child. I think the school should have some leeway with this rule because it is not enforced for both genders. This boy is not having long hair to show some type of statement he has long hair because it’s a culture and religious related. Kudos for the mom for fighting this. The big point to make here is are there any middle eastern children in the school district? If so do they make those children take off their face coverings (yes I know that they only use those coverings at a certain age but that’s not the point). That is part of their culture and religion and is more than likely not addressed in the dress code. I agree that this is outrageous.”
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“Wow. If you ask me they have a pretty winnable lawsuit on their hands.”
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“that is so wrong of the school. what happened to we do not turn anyone down because of race, color or religion? I have Cherokee in my blood, and that is so wrong of the school to do that. I hope they win the lawsuit.”
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“I think that is terrible that child should be able to go to school with his hair long and braided. I hope they win their appeal I will pass this on”
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“I think the school’s behavior is atrocious and I think that this family has a very winnable, very worthwhile lawsuit ahead of them.”
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“I think that this is so wrong, this poor boy! He should be able to get an education, no matter how long his hair is. they have no right to tell him to cut it, especially if it has to do with his heritage! I feel like writing the school!”
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“This just makes me mad! I am part Shawnee Indian and no one better ever ask me to cut my hair I will tell them where to shove it! This is part of his heritage and what they believe in.”
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“That sucks. I really think that it is an outdated rule due to the fact that the girls do not have the same policy. I am sure if she fought hard enough that she may get it changed. Stand up for her rights as a FREE AMERICAN and NOT cut her son’s hair.”
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“Not a reason for not let him to attend school.”
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“I live down the road from Needville, and I must say-not surprised. As an Anthropology major, this smacks of early 1900 indoctrination-the need to assimilate the heathen Native American to our more “civilized” way of life. Who cares about respecting everyone’s religious ideas and freedoms? As far as I’m concerned, this district does not want to be anything other than the rural town that it is. With more and more people of differing backgrounds heading out that way, this might be the first challenge they have received to their dress code, but it won’t be the last. I hope this Mom continues to push this issue. ”
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“I remember when I was a kid there was a school that forbid a child to go there because they had dyed their hair purple. The school lost the law suit! I believe that these people will win and not only that but shed a big fat spot light on this ghastly school district! Shaving a child’s head without permission is assault! I know that sounds a bit drastic but under the guidelines of what the nursing profession considers assault, that classifies!!! I will be praying for this family to win and stick it to this school. Have they been sued before this?”
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” This Rhoads is a pompous ass. I hope they take him down. ”
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“I was actually wondering if racism is an issue in this town. I feel so bad for this family.”
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“I agree!!! Is this a public school?? Hasn’t this jerk ever heard of the right to a free and public education for all students without discrimination!?!? Quoting **************: This Rhoads is a pompous ass. I hope they take him down.”
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“I personally can’t stand long hair on boys, but in this case regardless of the length they are attacking a child for his culture and for goodness sake’s he’s only in kindergarten. That Rhodes guy clearly sounds like an ass and I do too wonder if maybe he’s a lil prejudice. I hope the Native Americans win this case and that Rhodes has to eat his words”
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“I am confused… I would certainly complain to the school about that jeez how in the heck does hair length affect education I thought we knew better by now. My Fil got thrown out of school in the early 70’s for having a beard he fought that hard but being an orphan he had no one to help him stand up against it then a year later another child had the same issue and his parents fought and won the right for there child to have facial hair as the school (with the help of the parents lawyer) finally realized that facial hair has no bearing on anyone’s education what so ever”
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Absolutely this is discrimination!!! I live in San Antonio now but came from a very small Texas town like that. To me this is not a matter of trying to have long hair because its cool. This is a matter of respecting his heritage. I was raised in Arizona surrounded by reservations, my 2 best friends were Navajo and Zuni. This young boys hair would always be kept in a neat braid and would most likely be kept nicer than other boys cause its a pride matter. ”
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“I agree. That’s like asking a Sikh student to remove his turban because they think it’s a hat. It’s ridiculous.”
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“I think schools have pushed it way to far. does it really interfere with education? no? then back off. public schools need to accept the public! and if girls don’t have to cut their hair, boys had better not be made to!”————————————————————————————————————————————————————
“I agree. It is no longer culturally unacceptable for boys to have long hair. Like she said…if girls can have long hair then so can boys.”
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“I think there are better things the school can be focused on. This is a waste of time and money.”
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“Absolutely, positively ridiculous. Who cares if it’s cultural, religious, or if he just FEELS like having long hair? A boy having long hair doesn’t interfere with the school whatsoever. It changes absolutely nothing. What a waste of time, effort, and news.”
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“it’s GENDER discrimination. if girls can have their hair long, they have no right to restrict a boy from doing the same.”
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“Well, I am of two thoughts on this.
A school should be able to make whatever dress code rules they want (uniforms, skirt length, etc.). However, I am not inclined to support that right in regards to haircuts, UNLESS it is a private school or a school of choice where the parents are choosing to enroll the student, thereby choosing to abide by its rules.
When we are talking about the default school system–public/government schools are a default system because if the parents for whatever reason do not exercise their right to choose a private school, tutor, or homeschool, then they are obligated by compulsory laws to enroll the child in a public/government school–I think there should be accommodation of religious beliefs in regards to haircuts and dress as long as the exercise of that right does not violate decency or cause a health hazard.”
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“Quote: …I think there should be accommodation of religious beliefs in regards to haircuts and dress as long as the exercise of that right does not violate decency or cause a health hazard.
Especially since it’s apparently such a non-concern that they grant an exception for half the kids simply because they’re girls.
I’d say it’s religious and gender discrimination myself.”
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“If the hair is not cut because of religious reasons then I think there is a major law suit coming against this district. This sounds like a case the ACLU (not that I agree with them most of the time) would pick up and run with.”
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“What a bunch of BS! How is it a health and hygiene issue? Because he is a boy he can’t keep neat and clean? Baloney! Just another way for gov school to exercise control and flex their muscles.”
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“Long hair on a boy is not for me…FOR ME! I totally respect the religious/cultural reasons for not cutting their son’s hair. It looked neat and well braided in the video, and from what I saw, should not interfere with his day to day activities at the school~they showed him at home and he was managing horses for goodness sakes, and the hair did not seem to bother him one bit! If it is a religious/cultural issue, then by all means don’t cut the hair and fight the school!”
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“The school district is wrong, and I have no doubt they will loose. I was surprised there was a public school that dictated hair styles other than the generic “it must be neat and clean”. ”
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“So, is it ok for a public school to deny admittance to a female student who is veiled? Or forbid Christian students from taking off on Good Friday?
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When public schools begin to restrict the religious freedoms of it’s students, our society will forever be irreversibly doomed.”
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“I think the rule itself both reflects the attitudes of the people in the area and is the cause of perpetuating those attitudes as well.
There are quite a few religions that have rules about hair that do not conform to this school’s rule and just by having the rule they are teaching children that all people who have such beliefs are “outsiders.”
No doubt, we all live with rules, but what rule would make you fight against it because it would either infringe on your lifestyle too much or would make you break a covenant within your religious beliefs? What if the same school had a rule about headwear–I would imagine that they do–and did not allow an Mennonite girl to wear the traditional head covering, would everyone feel different about that? If that would be more worth fighting for, I would ask why. Because of the religion or because modesty is more acceptable or because it is a girl rather than a boy?”
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“It is a necessity, provided by the government, to educate the masses, and because of that, it also needs be a servant to the masses, but there also needs to be a balance so that the rules that serve the majority do not unfairly overrule the minorities. Here is only one Native American child in a school district just asking that he can attend school as he is, without having to cut his hair.
I just find it so ironic how “tolerance” is taught in government schools. What they really teach is we will be tolerant of you after you have conformed to what we can tolerate. In this case, we will tolerate you as a Native American, but you must conform so that you do not look like you are Native American, so that can tolerate you. Does that really work?”
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“No one wants tolerance…everyone wants conformity to their own belief system.”
“I completely disagree with what this school is doing.
The policy in general, is an attempt by the school to quash any individuality of the students. It’s not a health/hygiene issue, as long as the hair is kept clean & taken care of. It’s not a distraction to other children, preventing them from getting an education. I mean, seriously, when I was in school, people’s hair was the least distracting thing (even 4in neon green, spiked mohawks). This policy is simply there to make all students look as much alike as possible.
In regards to this specific child, the school is violating his 1st amendment rights. The fact that the principal refuses to allow this child to enter school because his father cannot point to a passage in a Holy Book to prove that this is in fact part of their belief system, is ridiculous. American Indian heritage, culture, and religions are passed down orally from generation to generation. To my knowledge, there has NEVER been a Holy Book for any American Indian religion. The fact that the school will only accept proof of that kind basically says that the school does not view this family’s religion as a legitimate one, simply because it does not have a Holy Book.
This story really angers me. A public school should not be able to have a dress code that strict, for one thing. Plus, there is no real reason for them to tell this family that their son cannot attend. They are crossing over boundaries that no public school should ever be allowed to cross. If it was a private school, that would be a different story. Public schools are required to accept all students within their district. They cannot be selective about their student body. That’s why it’s a PUBLIC school. I hope that the principal is fired for this discrimination.”
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“There would be no need for tolerance if people did not judge themselves superior to others different from themselves in the first place. I have noticed that even the people who pride themselves of being highly tolerant have expressed definite intolerance of people they judge to be intolerant.
The truth is we all want some measure of conformity because it makes us more comfortable. This is one of the reasons people of differing cultures and faiths naturally create subcommunities in cities. It is a natural desire for us to be with others similar to ourselves.
The point is that length of this child’s hair makes people uncomfortable, even fearful that if the rules are changed for this one thing then there will be no end to the changes in the rules and perhaps anarchy will rule, which is an extreme. The one absolute certainty in life is change and yet it is the one thing people fear the most. It simply is the fear of change that makes people want to keep this rule unchanged and without exceptions.”
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“if the school’s major reason for no long hair is that it could endanger someone, then they should either apply the rules to girls as well or find a compromise [e.g. long hair needs to be in a pony tail or braided back].
I don’t have a problem with a school creating and enforcing a dress code, but it should be equally enforced across the board. If the reason for the long hair needing to be cut is that it’s a possible hazard, then that would be true for girls as well.”
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“I understand the need for rules & limits. I’m not saying that they shouldn’t have any. I do think, however, that many of them go beyond what they should be allowed to dictate. Yes, I think that kids should have to dress appropriately for school. Underwear should not be seen (on boys or girls), clothes endorsing drugs or alcohol should not be allowed, girls should wear skirts of a decent length & their shirts should cover their midriffs. However, if a child wants to dye their hair blue, and their parents agree, what right does the public school have to say they can’t? I can see how a girl dressed in a mini skirt & a shirt that’s barely more than a sports bra could be distracting, possibly to the point of affecting other students’ education (especially the boys who are too busy staring at her to pay attention to their math lesson). But, will someone having blue streaks in their hair, wearing a necklace, or having a nose ring really affect anyone’s education? I don’t think so. Many of the things that public schools are now enforcing as dress code policy should be up to the parents, not the school. Maybe if schools paid less attention to the way the students look and more attention to providing them with an actual education, we wouldn’t have so many high school graduates who are illiterate or below 5th grade level math skills.”
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“I feel wearing different attire is different than asking someone to cut their hair. Changing your clothes for school is different because when you get home you can wear what you want and go back to showing your own style. Having long hair which is a part of my heritage, it would completely change someone’s appearance permanently if they were asked to cut their braid off. I have many family photos of my grandparents/great grandparents having long braids (American Indian) and I don’t think they would have cut their hair because a school told them to.”
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“I love this quote:
“In my 20 years in education, I’ve never had a kindergartner refuse to follow the rules of the school district,” Rhodes says. “So this is uncharted territory for us, too.”
That is so laughable, I mean has this guy never met a kid before. Lets see, talking in class when the teacher is talking, hitting, spitting, chewing gum, throwing toys , ……………. …………. …………………. …………………………. …………. ………………….. ………………………. …this us simple a stupid statement.
More seriously however is the idea that this could just a easily be a Mennonite or Amish female who wanted to cover the hair and is told they cannot wear a hat, a Muslim who wants to wear a garment that does not meet school dress code, a student from an African culture that requires the head to be shaved, or some other thing that is a no-no according to many dress codes. We have to preserve religious expression where it is reasonable and these folks need an exemption.”
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“I found this statement by the superintendent very telling
Quote: “[The school board is] pretty solid, and they’re proud of the Needville heritage we have here,” Rhodes says. “There’s a lot of school districts that have lost their discipline and all their beliefs. Needville’s pretty tight about that, they’re pretty tight about the traditions they have.”
In other words, “we’re strictly Christian and we refuse to allow other beliefs and practices into our schools”. Trust me, I’m all about protecting the rights to practice my faith, but that can only happen if other faiths also have the right to practice theirs.
Aside from the fact that other court cases have already ruled that Native Americans have the right to keep their hair long despite school rules. What makes Needville think it’s so special that the law doesn’t apply to them?”
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“I almost spit out my food when I read they were considering putting him with his own teacher. How does that solve anything? AND that is totally contradicting. He would still be at the school with long hair…PLUS it would wasting a heck of a lot of tax dollars…all because the school is too stubborn about it.
It seems like the super just has a hard head and is now grasping at anything he can find.
I can honestly see both sides of this, but there is a point where it all must come to an end and the school needs to be more tolerant. You can clearly see the families values and religion are sincere.”
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“This whole thing is also very sexist. If a girl can have long hair and it’s not unsanitary, then a boy can too.”
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“”A school district is a reflection of the community. We’ve consistently been very conservatively dressed, very conservatively disciplined. It’s no secret what our policy is: You’ll cut your hair to the right point. You’ll tuck in your shirt. You’ll have a belt.”
What is the “right point” and how is that decided. This is such a controlling and sexist statement.
“”How can it be outdated? How many doctors, professionals, lawyers, look at your military branches, look at bankers, how many of them have long hair? How many have beards? How many have body piercings all over their face?””
Yeah and how many are Native American? The kid doesn’t have a beard and this isn’t about facial piercings. It is about hair being sacred to them. What is wrong with this child being taught and immersed in his heritage?
Too often people toss their heritage to the wayside because the system or government demands conformity. Does this family see Needville as hick and small minded? Who knows. I sure do. I grew up in a small town not far from here where conformity was shoved down your throat. Anything perceived as different or odd and you are the target.
I am proud of his parents for not backing down. I’d stand up for what I believe in as well. Good for them to take a stand! Will the system back down and let him in? Probably not. But I still applaud them for taking a stand.”
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“How about this tid-bit:
” The district has an alternative disciplinary school, but Adriel is too young to be assigned to that.”
Wow, I didn’t know having long hair required an alternative disciplinary school.”.
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Personally speaking, I find the conduct of the superintendent appalling & an embarrassment. I honestly feel that my tax dollars would be better spent building a new high school rather than denying a 5 yr old boy his Constitutional rights.
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On the CNN website I came across a recent issue your school district is facing, specifically the issue arround Adriel Arocha and his hair length.
While I agree that rules ought to be followed, I firmly believe that some rules are unnecessary and create problems rather than prevent them. And one such rule is an inherently sexist rule about male hair length. How does a boy having long hair interfere or detract/distract from a proper education? Such a rule does not improve any aspect of education. Instead, it creates an issue where one need not exist.
Do the right thing: get rid of frivolous, divisive rules and let this child have an education.
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“If long hair is the worst of your problems as a school district, kudos to you! I’m eager to hear about all the other penny ante rules that you make up for your students next.
Gee, in the four years I taught in the Detroit public school system I had to deal with students fighting in class, bringing guns to class, getting killed and thrown in a dumpster, and being pregnant before they’d even learned how to solve for x. If only I’d thought to throw them out of school because I didn’t like the length of their hair I would have been much farther ahead.”
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Your discrimination of the Native American child is disgusting and beyond immoral.
I have taken the liberty of publishing your school’s contact information in as many places as I can on the Internet and have forwarded news items detailing your hateful and discriminatory practices to everyone on my mailing list, as well as sending multiple emails to the national and Texas chapters of the ACLU. I have also encouraged everyone that I can to do the same.
Only hypocrites would attempt to teach civics to children they wish to “assert authority” over (that is what your dress code states, correct?)
You should be ashamed of yourselves and your despicable behavior.